Irritable Male Syndrome

The irritable male syndrome is something that many are unaware of, yet everyone knows that male anger can be extremely caotic.

There's a book called "the irritable male syndrome by Jed Diamond, author of the this male menopause book, as it can be seen above in the video.

Guys who are extremely angry, usually suffer of hypersensitivity, they don't recognize their "hormonal" syndrome as a irritable period.

These men tend to blame their loved ones for everything...Thus, these untreated emotional problems can lead up unto more "tensions" like alcohol, aggression and abuse which can be divided into a physical or emotional abuse.

IMS symptoms are similar to male-hype depression often expressed through irritability and scientific research has just begun on this matter.

A lot of men recognize that they suffer from some kind of anger mood and they can be one day the sweetest and the next act like a total stranger...Yet, they live in denial.

I guess anyone that may know a person who is extremely angry should look for some help by first checking out the symptoms of this IMS syndrome and there's a quiz and information at Dr. Jed's webpage which is http://www.theirritablemale.com
and you can find the link for a quiz and he can certainly help with guidelines for a healthier life style.

I think this approach is very helpful, since many women can find some help while being abused and etc through several organizations, yet there's a big need of offering help for many men that suffer from this syndrome and eventually if not treated can become extremely violent and abusers...

The link for the quiz is http://www.theirritablemale.com/quiz.htm

Ladino Song - Abraham Avinu

Dear friends and visitors,

Sorry for being on a vacation for so long and not being able to dedicate myself for sending new posts !

So, as a fast breaker and an apology - here goes a beautiful Ladino music video to warm hearts up with this melodious song in this Jewish language spoken by so many Sephardim worldwide.

I hope to be able to write new post in the near future !!!

If I don't be able to write before Pessach, which I truely wish and hope that I will...In any case I wish all a Kasher'v chag samech !

Synagogue Kahal Zur Israel - The First in the Americas

As the Jewish people have been experiencing the exile for centuries...There have been Jewish immigration all around the globe and especially to the New world, in other words to the Americas - North and South America respectively.

We all know that Am Israel have a natural connection with Eretz Israel, the land of Israel.

But,few people may be aware of some connection between The Jewish community of New York and the Jewish community in a northern state of Brazil...

So, even though the above youtube video is not one of the best produced by some students - their english is far from good - yet, it quite shows the mikva and structure of the old synagogue in the New world.

Yet, the first synagogue of the new world was actually built in the city of Recife, Pernambuco in Brazil approximately in 1636- and some of its members were the ones that founded the first shul in New York, USA which is the Shearith Israel located on Central park west 70 th st.

Nowdays, both communities carry their own identities...yet, the connection of the Jewish people surpass the bondaries of nationalities and countries.

The Jewish community of Brazil still faces challenges like any other, yet its Ahavat Israel and friendship is an example to be followed.

http://www.haaretz.com/hasen/spages/922773.html
http://www.jewishvirtuallibrary.org/jsource/vjw/Brazil.html
http://www.shearithisrael.org/folder/learning_history_new.html

THE RISK OF UNTREATED POSTPARTUM IN THE JEWISH COMMUNITY

I had written before about the critical condition of postpartum depression that many women are likely to suffer after childbearing regardless of nationality, social status and religious background.

I just want to emphasize more on the necessity of this condition to be treated, especially in the Jewish community where the birth rate is high and many women suffer silently from PPD.

Postpartum depression can affect a woman’s well being for a long time after childbirth and if not treated it can develop into a lifelong thyroid condition.

So, I urge all ladies to be attentive to their health before and after childbirth and be aware of any unusual symptoms that one might be feeling such as to name few: excessive sadness, uncontrollable crying, lack of interest in the baby, confusion, anxiety, total exhaustion or severe fatigue, feeling of guilty, disturbances of sleep, mood swings up and downs…

But, if these symptoms don’t get treated it can become a much worst condition, and it’s a mistake that many women leave it untreated and undiagnosed.

It’s important to note that problems untreated after childbirth is likely to become a thyroid problem during life and be triggered in a future pregnancy, menopause or a general stressful time.

If you know somebody who might be suffering from PPD, you can contact the non-profit organization SPARKS whose primary mission is to help women in the Jewish community to overcome this condition.

SPARKS is doing a terrific job in helping women in the community, yet it survives solely on donations; therefore this a great Tzedakah cause that everyone can contribute due to its worthy cause which is the Yiddish mama’s cause.

Check SPARKS’s website: http://sparkscenter.org/about.htm or click on the title to be redirected.

ISRAEL HAS THE RIGHT TO DEFEND ITSELF

What’s wrong with the World? How dare nations find it normal that the terrorist organization – hamas can send rockets into Israeli soil and find outrageous that Israel is defending itself!

But, when Israel finally awakes and is defending its innocent civilians, the World complains? I wish they complained half as much as when innocent children die in Israel - and now they have the audacity to complain when Israel is striking the evil terrorists which by the way are called militants in the bias mainstream media.

It’s interesting that the UN and the whole world suddenly care about the death of innocent civilians which in the majority are the wives and children of terrorists; what about the Israeli civilians? Isn’t it plausible that a country defend itself against harmful rockets that fall into its territories?

How dare the world is furious?! If your neighbor attacks you, what are you going to do? Sit and wait until he finishes up with your family?

Israel is doing its best to protect innocent Palestinian civilians and offer humanitarian help – nobody wants wars and nobody desires to kill Palestinian civilians.

Nevertheless, it’s the terrorist Palestinian organization which insists in killing the innocent civilians in Israel.

If Israel doesn’t defend itself – who among the nations would exclaim: There are innocent children dying on the floor…I’ve never heard any UN consul reprove terrorist’s activities that kill Israeli civilians.

I’m appalled to find the hypocrisy of the media and world government to reprove Israel, when all it is doing is to finally fight back terrorists who shouldn’t be called “militants”; terrorists think that Israel doesn’t have the right to exist and want to kill any innocent person that in their understanding is an infidel.

I’m sick tired of hearing the Media and the World blame Israel. Terrorists can’t have a free pass to kill innocents in the World and they should get the message and Israel’s message to the World is that even though it’s doing everything possible to preserve the life of Palestinians (plus the humanitarian aids) It’s enough of terrorist’s activities killing innocent children and families in Israel.

One can not compromise with terrorism – but rather take action and fight for its very existence. Peace sometimes has to be fought for.

I feel terrible for the innocent in the Palestinian side, but unfortunately, most of them think that it’s okay to kill Israelis by sending rockets. I wish they should have a normal education and normal healthy lives free from the influence of terrorist organizations.

What bothers the world is – Israel does have the right to exist and yes it has the right to defend itself just like any country would.

A quick reflection: Rosh Hashanah vs. secular New Year

In Western civilizations the last day of December is always an exciting time where people look forward for an unknown new year…

Most people blindly simply celebrate just the fact of watching the change of years on the count down of minutes until midnight. Some start it on drinking and with a big hangover the next day, what a way to start, hum?

In the Traditional Religious Jewish New Year, we pray, pray and pray in awe asking G-d for a good year and there’s no fireworks whatsoever, but the trust in G-d’s ultimate mercy towards our fragile beings.

It’s so interesting that people can endure even the cold in New York to watch a ball drop with millions of other people – celebrating the New Year.

Who of those among the millions last December would know how bad 2008 turned to be in a Global perspective? Now, everyone thinks that in a turn of a magic ball drop everything can turn out different for the better once again…

I really hope things would get better in the long haul for the World – but it takes a lot of effort and it doesn’t happen on the blink of an eye.

I always wished people in general would know that over drinking and acting overly crazy won’t do them any good, but rather causes more harm; of course that many of those drinking probably feel bad about their current transition, therefore they drink.

Why can’t people try to get themselves together and use it as a good excuse to improve themselves?

The bad guys in Dubai cancelled the New Year’s celebrations and fireworks off in solidarity for the “Palestinians cause”…I find it so bizarre that the world finds very plausible.

For most the Jewish world it’s a night like any other – though one has to acknowledge the calendar where one lives.

If most people don’t celebrate the religious Rosh Hashanah – I really wish the world should try to improve itself in 2009…Everything which is good starts from within with self-reflection and prayers.

YEHUDIT – A HEROINE’S MESSAGE

A message of Chanukah
By  CHANI.

Nowadays, much is talked about how everyone should “understand” modern day’s assassins of good people, as if there were reasonable appeals for their wicked behavior.

The world has always tried to find a way to blame the victims of atrocities, while defending its murders. So, many people have blamed the very existence of Israel for terrorism per se that it’s beyond belief.

I remember that right after 9/11, I got a call from a “friend” that I used to give foreign language lessons to, and this person told me that the reason of the attack was America’s support for Israel. I was shocked to hear such untrue statement.

First of all terrorists have an agenda, they want to destroy everyone that doesn’t agree with their “religion”, point-of-view and hunger for evil and death. They pride themselves as “warriors” who aren’t in love of G-d’s ultimate gift which is LIFE.

These evil doers despise life and their deity is death itself, therefore they hate the idea of freedom for “infidels” in their distorted minds.

When, terrorism was only in Israeli territory, the whole world would give signals that it was Israel’s solely fault! Now, that it’s gone global, the “guilty minded liberal” mentality still seems to point fingers at the victims.

Meanwhile nothing is really done to prevent these horrific actions…After, few weeks of the Mumbai attack where Westerners, Israelis and Jewish people were terribly attacked, the government of Israel releases a “bunch” of perpetrators.

So, here comes a message of Chanukah that’s right on the corner – Yehudit the Jewish heroine, a feminine figure of the miraculous events that happened in Chanukah which illustrates that she was observant, pious, modest, yet charming and beautiful with a strong faith in the G-d of Israel.

This Jewish heroine teaches everyone that she didn’t only pray, but she embraced the mission of cutting off the enemy herself; first of all, she believed that if the Jewish people kept G-d’s commandments, they wouldn’t perish – nevertheless, she took upon herself a mission which in modern time would sound insane!

She prayed to G-d to protect, guide and deliver, thus, she went after Holofernes the Tyrant Syrian-Greek General – she went with a maid, and eventually after stuffing him with her delicious cheese and wine killed him with a sword by herself!

I’m not saying in anyway, that women or men should take “vengeance” matters on their own hands, but, into certain extent we must fight to cut off the evil that threaten us.

Governments shouldn’t be sleeping, thinking that the taking of one innocent life is fine, when it’s not; the blood of the innocent is crying out to G-d.

Women and men alike should take into consideration that we must trust in G-d, thus, put on armours of righteousness. Gentlemen should be working on being “good” and “loving” husbands to their wives and vise versa. Parents should be really compassionate with their children, and when these are wrong, shouldn’t be pat, but instructed with love, and daughters and sons should be compassionate towards their parents as well.

In resume, Yehudit the heroine’s story should resonate to Israel and the whole world; miracles do happen, but one has to do their part – we can’t close our eyes to the barbaric killings of innocent and say that it’s okay. No, it’s not okay, we must exclaim in words and in actions NOT to release the evil doers, but rather cut off the evil among us.